How To Deliver Killer Lines

Now let’s work on those lines.

Seriously, WHAT you say isn’t half as important as HOW you say it. Still, it can only help if you are PREPARED.

When you first start working on your flirting, unless you are Joe Cool, you are going to get NERVOUS. That’s alright, it’s just a fact.

Even the best sometimes get nervous in front of a beautiful woman.

The difference between the best and the rest, though, is a man in control knows how to, you guessed it, CONTROL his nerves.

That takes practice, scores of rejections, hundreds of dates… and even then you’ll feel the nerves kick in now and again.

THAT’S why we are going to work on some lines. It’s not the words that are key, it’s the CONFIDENCE that comes from knowing you have some good things to say. Knowing that if you’re stuck, you’ve got an out. If you’re nervous enough to froth a cappuccino with your touch, you’ve got a witty something that will escape your brain lock, get her laughing, and get you relaxed.

Plus, funny as you might become, not everyone can riff like Conan O’Brien. And even HE has prepared material.

So, what sort of thing do you want to say to a woman? What are the emotions that you want to get her feeling?

Think about it. Write down your thoughts. Go ahead, I’ll wait.

Done it? NO?!! Look, I know this stuff, this is for YOU, and you aren’t getting ANYWHERE without some effort. Screw “I’ll do it in my head,” there is something much more permanent and lasting about a thought committed to paper.

And I’m not just talking about having it on paper. When I was in school, I found that something I took notes on I remembered – without needing the notes afterwards – while things I planned to “just remember” always got forgotten. That extra effort now makes a big difference later.

So if you’re serious about improving your game, then get a pencil, because you’ve got WORK to do here. In fact, if you haven’t been keeping up, go back and write down all your other exercises as well.

Don’t worry. The payoff is great.

Now, I’ll wait one more time, write down what you think a woman WANTS to feel, what feeling will create ATTRACTION in her.

If you’ve been readying carefully and you’re not a lazy sloth, you’ve probably written something about humor on your list. Why?

Laughter feels GOOD. It shoots seratonin all over your head. It’s a complex reaction – as near as we can tell, only humans laugh – and it integrates many parts of the brain. As has been noted, it also RELAXES people and allows them to relax their GUARD.

There is a reason laughter can be called DISARMING. There’s a reason it’s often a reaction to an uncomfortable situation, and that we have dark or gallows humor. Laughter is a RELEASE.

If you get a girl laughing, you make her feel better than she did a moment before. Her world gets sunnier, her defenses descend a smidge (at a time), and she associates that good feeling with YOU.

That’s a powerful combo.

But it doesn’t end there.

I was always a funny guy, but before I figured things out I WASN’T good at attracting women with it. Oh, women LIKED me, they just weren’t ATTRACTED to me.

My humor had two problems that we need to stay away from: one, I was sometimes TOO funny, too GOOFY, and that’s death. Two, I used my humor in such a disarming way that all the tension in conversations was gone. Everyone was happy, relaxed, and completely devoid of that magical TENSION that sexual emotions thrive on.

It was very frustrating. I can feel a lot of nodding heads out there; you aren’t alone.

So I had to come up with a way to keep the tension IN, and USE THAT in my humor.

One day, after enough trial and error, I realized you need a little ARROGANCE in there. If you have just the right amount of cockiness it changes your humor from DEFLATING a balloon of tension to something that PUMPS IT UP even more.

When the balloon is ready to explode, look out. You’ve got a wild woman on your hands.

A GREAT way to let that arrogance come out is in the gentle mocking of whomever you’re talking to – or even anyone nearby, although ironically you are at greater risk of looking like a jerk by mocking people nearby than if you OPENLY TEASE the girl you’re talking to.

Also, you can’t be afraid to use SEXUAL humor. Most guys are scared of it because, done wrong, you look sleazy – and most of us have made some errors of judgment in our drunker moments.

But done right, sexual humor increases sexual TENSION exponentially, and makes you look like a confident, experienced stud. The biggest key is making it VERY funny and VERY natural. We’re not looking for crude, we’re looking for sophistication.

Ok, enough theory, how about an example.

Say you’re at a bar, and a woman walks in wearing a dress that’s only over one shoulder, flowing, it almost looks like a toga.

Maybe you say “All you need now is a blindfold and a scale, and you could get away with that dress.” She’ll be surprised, maybe even shocked – most men don’t talk that way to her, bonus for you, you’re separated from the pack already – but if she’s got any humor in her, she’ll dissolve into a smile or laughter.

As the banter continues and if you’re both still playing with your opener, you might follow up with “Wow, I barely know you, and already you’re bringing blindfolds into the relationship? You are a kinky one. I’m sorry, this just isn’t working out, you move too fast for me. After all, I’m more than just a sex toy. I need someone who loves me for me, not just my astounding physique.” (This is even better when you obviously DON’T have an astounding physique.)

At this point, she’ll be enjoying herself, you’ll be making her laugh, you’ll stand out from the crowd, and you’ll be building the sexual tension to an incredible degree.

Or say you see a knockout, you’re talking for a bit, you get her smiling, and then you ask “So what’s it like?”

Her: What’s what like?

You: Well, being a beautiful women, you must be able to get all the guys to do whatever you want. What’s that like?

You: (after a shocked pause or a knowing smile from her, depending on the girl) And what’s it like being with me, knowing that won’t work?

I’ve personally used that one to great affect – it becomes a funny topic for the rest of the evening. Sometimes I send the woman out on missions to get other guys to buy drinks to give to me! It blows my mind that these guys can see this all happening and they’ll still buy the drinks, thinking somehow that’s impressive.

It’s not. Confidence is impressive. As is wit.

Later in the night she might be beaming at you after you’ve said something arrogant and funny, and you deadpan with a serious face “You love me.” Or “I hate you.” Or “You’re not one of those stalker ex-girlfriends, are you?”

Are you feelin’ this? Good.

Get that pen out. It’s sweatin’ time.

I want you to go back to the locations you have in your journal, and the playful comments you’ve come up for each.

Now, brainstorm ways to add a touch of arrogance to some comments. Try to come up with five for each locale. Play with them. Take them out for test drives. Get the delivery right – say these sort of things incorrectly and you could sound like a prick. Say them right, and you sound like a stud.

Get a stable of remarks that you feel comfortable with, and that you know will get a good response most of the time. Perfect them. Make sure you refine your list with responses to comebacks that sharp women will throw at you.

When you’re comfortable with them and can use them to good affect, add more. Your list should keep growing, until one day you outgrow it. With enough practice, you won’t need to think of witty things to say, you will simply BE a wittier person.

REMEMBER though, it isn’t the words as much as the delivery. The right words can help your delivery, and having a ready list can help your confidence. But it’s HOW you say it that matters.

One of my favorite ex-girlfriends I met at a party without ANY words – we had a cocky and funny drama using nothing but facial expressions while I waited to use the bathroom across the room. She couldn’t wait to give me her info.

It’s HOW you say it. Sorry to repeat myself, but that is really the key to it all.

HOW. Ok I’m done.

Derek Vitalio

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How To Talk To Any Women Anywhere

Ok, enough working on yourself, let’s get down to some serious field work.

Picture this: you are out, say at a grocery store, and a beautiful woman walks down your aisle. I mean a stunner. The kind of woman who inspires sonnets and starts wars.

And she doesn’t notice you. She’s just shopping.

You stand there, stunned, scanning your mind for some way to talk to her. You run through all the ways it won’t work, how she’ll think you’re a jerk unless you can say just the perfect thing, but you CAN’T THINK because you’re so scared of SCREWING IT UP. You want to do something but you’re FROZEN.

And then she’s gone. All you got was a clean-up call on aisle 3 so no one slips in your drool.

Sound familiar? It should. It’s happened to EVERYONE (unless you attended Adam Lyons Bootcamp) at one time or another. Even to me (I appreciate the gasps of shock).

The fact that it’s happened shouldn’t embarrass you. But if you keep LETTING it happen, day after day, then you need to do something different. Because that ain’t gonna cut it.

Listen, those ladies have very active social lives. And guess what? They met everyone – including their various boyfriends – as a stranger. Ok, sure, your buddy Lucky is dating a 10 that his sister introduced him to. Goody for him.

You can’t count on that. Women that are sought-after don’t fall into your lap. If you don’t get proactive, you have ZERO chance of ever being with someone like that. And if you’ve got an ADVANCED case of wussy-boy lockjaw, you won’t be able to meet ANYONE worth meeting regularly.

You’ll have to get used to your only best friend, your hand.

Let me tell you something interesting; most women are approached by men all the time, but many of the MOST beautiful women are LEFT ALONE. That’s right, guys are so intimidated by them they class themselves out the competition before it even begins. The 10s in the world are sometimes the loneliest ladies on the planet. They are dying for someone to say something interesting to them.

And you’re going to deny them? Because you’re scared of negative scenarios you thought up that are A THOUSAND TIMES WORSE than any real encounter between real people? How selfish.

The truth is most women will NOT think you are a jerk just for talking to them. They might not be available to talk – maybe they are in a hurry, maybe they have a jealous boyfriend, maybe their dog just died – but a woman will NOT be offended just because you want to talk.

Oh, she’ll know you are trying to pick her up. She’ll assume that just by EYE CONTACT when you notice her, or the way you lean in near her, or the way you are suddenly fascinated by the can of peas near where she’s standing.

You don’t have to approach her for her to assume you’re interested, you just have to notice her.

So, the gig is up, your cover is blown by virtue of the fact that you’re a man. If you keep your mouth shut, all you’re doing is telling her you’re a weak wussy-man with balls of jello that Hanz and Franz would like to pummel until you piss jello ball juice the rest of your life.

Though not in so many words.

So what’s a jello ball man to do to get balls that shoot lightening whenever they clank and rub their brass bravery together?

For starters – as we’ve said before – you can stop worrying about all the bad things that you think will happen. They won’t. You have to basically TRY if you’re going to get slapped, and she’s not going to call you out in front of your friends.

About the WORST thing that can happen is she won’t be interested in talking and will give you a chill reception.

And that’s about TEN times less likely than you getting some sort of positive response. Even if she can’t talk or isn’t available for whatever reason, she’ll probably act sweet or appreciative anyway.

After all, you just paid her the compliment of ATTENTION. And almost everyone loves that.

If, on the other hand, she IS available, and you manage to avoid saying something insulting (trust me, it’s not hard to avoid), you are VERY likely to get a positive response.

If you say something INTERESTING, if you are WITTY and CHARMING and FUNNY, then you are almost GUARANTEED to get her info.

But on the first approach, that isn’t even necessary. Just avoid saying something like how you want to suck all the milk out of her, and you’ll do fine.

I know a guy who goes up to women all the time and delivers some variant of “Hi, I’m practicing talking to attractive women without being nervous, so thank you for letting me say hi.” Usually that piques their interest. He gets the numbers of about half of them.

Sounds unbelievable, doesn’t it? All this time you thought there was a magic key, but the truth is you can say almost anything to start a conversation! More important is HOW you say it, WITHOUT NERVES.

So now we come to homework time. Think about situations where you tend to see attractive women. Now think of various things you can say to start a conversation. Funny is best, and if you can mix some cocky in there, you should be golden.

For instance, back in the grocery store, you can make some comment about the products on the shelves. If you can get a laugh or a smile out of her, introduce yourself immediately after, ask her for number after about two or three minutes of conversation, and walk away.

It’s that easy.

If you can’t think of anything funny, you can always ask for advice. Especially if you need a WOMAN’S advice.

For example, say you’re in a clothing store and a lovely lady walks by. You can say something like ‘Excuse me, but I’m thinking of buying a shirt to go out in this weekend, and I want to look GOOD. Which do you like?” A couple minutes of conversation, get her info, and you’re set.

It’s that easy.

In fact, it’s much easier than you’d believe. Women will give out their info A LOT more easily than you’d imagine. This is true in basically any situation, save funerals, unless you religiously believe in The Wedding Crashers.

Really, the only thing you need to do is get your confidence up and just TALK TO HER. So this week, go out and talk to 10 girls. Once you’ve started you’ll see how easy it can be and want to talk to more, but consider your first 10 practice, just to get yourself conversing with them in a normal way.

The more relaxed you are the better, so the more women you approach the better you’ll become (surprising, isn’t it). Have a list of funny openers for different situations to get yourself started, but chances are you’ll grow out of that in not too much time.

Even if you don’t, you should still be fine.

Of course, getting email and numbers is only the FIRST STEP, and doesn’t guarantee you’ll get where you want to go. One thing that really isn’t that important, though, is the lines you use.

Derek Vitalio

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Mind Set To Deal With Women

I've been thinking about this lately and I decided to give out some points on how to perceive women.

See, a lot of folks get pissed off at women when holding high expectations about some loyalty/bond bullshit and in the end they get "disappointed" of them.

I recommend you guys read and I MEAN read thoroughly the following 2 posts:

The Truth About Women by Unknown
Secret Society by Tyler Durden

If you get what these guys are saying and IMPRINT it in your brains, you will sleep better and you WILL get laid more.

I will throw in some explanations below for the clueless geeks that the above posts seem like Chinese to them.

Understand:

There are 2 things women are driven by: 1. their instincts/emotions; 2. the society.

Like men, women have the basic instinct to procreate and with as many men as possible (preferably with good genes/different gene pool or with some sort of a power element). They also are inclined to submit to aggressive males and they feel sexually aroused by male aggression (NO MATTER WHAT BULLSHIT they try to tell you). See: it's a thin line between rape and pleasing sex for women. A side note: don't go there if you do not know how to pull this (you may get your ass kicked by the authorities so hard that you may come out of prison gay).

Women also are very sexually inclined (more than men) and evolutionarily have used sex to get stuff or to bond with others (males OR females!). 99% of heterosexual women are actually bi-sexual whether they realize it/admit it or not. And if you think this is bullshit, you are going on the wrong path here, buddy. I have seen it and I see it a lot (saw it last night by the way) but this shit is sometimes subtle. Most sexually active women (meaning sexually "free" as much as they can be free of course) have had a lesbian experience and/or a threesome with another girl or a guy.

The above could be hardly consciously realized by a lot of women even though they all are like that. Remember: it is all on an instinctual level.

If and when she admits it to herself, she will NEVER share it with anyone for the fear of being labeled a SLUT.

So, let's move on the society force and that shhhshhh S.. word.

Since women did not have to bond the way that men had to (in order to survive a battle or do a successful hunt; all of these require TEAM WORK), they were impossible to control using things like "common good", bond, faithfulness...etc.

Therefore the society measures against them are a lot more stringent than the ones against men.

So, some balloon head comes in (I am sure it is more than 1 guy) and creates the S...thing.

But is he really a balloon head? No, they had to do it to get the tribe/nation going forward, so that the nation survives and is sustained. Women and alpha men going out of control sleeping around and bearing a lot of kids (they did not have birth control back then) was bad news for the becoming-to-be-overpopulated planet where each tribe was trying to get a hold of the best stuff...yada yada...u get the point.

Also: sexual energy is very powerful it is on second place after physical survival. But you know what: a person cannot survive without food, water, etc for long but he sure can survive without much sex (only enough to procreate). So, here we have a weapon that moves us forward....yada yada.

So, how about the slut thing in the 21st century? Well, it is a double-sided knife now.

Women are restrained from having casual sex (something they really covet inside) by the fear of being labeled a slut.

Are you ready for the second side of the knife: Women now conveniently use the SLUT thing against their opponents (meaning other women trying to get a man that they also like or generally trying to get sex when the other is not likely to get any). It is a great jealously weapon: "If you go home with this guy you are a slut". Or if the guy is like me and knows how to steal women for a one night stand, they will MAKE SURE "the guilty" chick GETS a lot of shit. Or, even better:

"I can't believe I was such a slut sleeping with this guy! I will never do this again! (i.e. Will you girls forgive me and continue to respect me?)" (I've actually heard this one A LOT!)

Once I fucked this hottie and the next morning she calls her girlfriends and they're all like pissed off hanging up on her and shit (they were there what it happened plus she was horny enough to just let me have it). I told her to lie to them that we just held hands and had dinner (muwa how romantic!). I bet ya they got happy and she was able to save her "reputation".

Anyways, I hope I've been clear.